As cell phones are taking over the teenage world, they are being used for an increasing number of daily activities. Dating is also a big part of a teenager's life.
It can sometimes be for the worst when these two things collide. As a result, many rules have been developed regarding cell phones, texting, and dating.
The first is that it is appropriate and good to update your date if you are running late for a legitimate reason. Texting is also a low pressure way of saying that you had fun on a date and thanking someone for their time.
The second rule is that you should never, under any circumstances text on a date without their permission. Even then the text had better be for something no less than an emergency.
The purpose of a date is to get to know someone better. This can only happen through conversation.
It is impossible to really get to know someone when you are holding another conversation with someone else. Not to mention that it is downright rude.
This rule encompasses excited parents and friends who are trying to find out how the date is going. If texting is too much of a temptation simply leave it at home.
Developing these kinds of technology related manners is very important to your social life and reputation. It is also okay to expect these manners in other as well.
The third rule is that texting should never take the place of a conversation. Texting is a reserved activity for relaying unimportant or short messages.
Important conversations such as determining where the relationship stands and other vital information should be done in person if possible. If it cannot be done in person, then a conversation over the phone is acceptable.
However, texting someone to ask them to be your girlfriend is never acceptable. One indication that your texting should become a conversation is when you have sent four texts and the conversation is likely to keep going for a while.
If your friendship is mostly based on texting, this is not a true friendship. This relationship will either need to move upwards where you can speak face to face or it will simply need to be ended.
A texting relationship feeds dreams, but keeps emotions at a distance. These relationships do not really mean anything and are a waste of time and hope unless they are developed.
The fourth rule is that you should not keep anyone updated on your life from minute to minute. They have their own life to live and are not interested in the trivial details of your life.
Texts should have some significance to the receiver whether it is a question, valuable information, or a joke. Be considerate of the other person and save your time if you are going to send a trivial fact through texting.
The fifth rule is to never send compromising photos of yourself to someone. It does not matter how much you trust them, these photos can and will be used against you.
If you are dating a guy and you send a compromising photo, he will most likely share it with a friend or two for a laugh. Your reputation will automatically become marred.
Even if he does not share it with his friends, it could end up all over the internet if you try to break up with him or you hurt him in some way. Do not compromise yourself this way.
The sixth rule is that you should never text when drunk. This causes all kinds of problems as you are not thinking straight.
The seventh rule is that you should not expect to receive a text right away. The other person may have lost their phone or they may be busy at the moment.
Rest assured that they will return your call when they can. Do not become overly upset if several hours pass before they reply.
The eighth rule is that you should always be aware of your tone of voice. Texting is ambiguous as far as what kind of emotion you are relaying without the punctuation.
What one message means to you could be something completely different to the receiver. These ambiguous messages have ended in hurt feelings and arguments.
There are many rules for when and how texting can be involved, but most of them are common sense. Be considerate of those around you.
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